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jspark3000:

If you talk to anyone who’s involved in a huge tragedy, you can’t say those cute cliches like “Pain forces you to grow” or “God has a wonderful plan for your life.” It sounds hollow and stupid, and I would slap myself in the face if I said those things too.

I believe more and more that not every pain has a lessonI think sometimes that pain is just pain, that life can be a mystery, and it’s all part of our weird wild crazy human experience. Pain is part of being human. We don’t need to spiritualize everything. We don’t need to wrap things up with a bowtie. Sometimes there is unresolved tension and we need to let it bleed.

However, here’s why I believe in the Christian faith.

I believe in Jesus because his life means God actually showed solidarity with us in our pain. I know that doesn’t solve pain right now. But when I’m hurting, I don’t need a lecture or a connect-the-dots-theology. What I need is a friend who will stay with me side by side and hear my venting, embrace my shaking, love me through my slobbery flailing mess. I need a presence who both understands my pain but is just enough above it to lead me through it.

And if I believe the narrative of Jesus, then we have both a person who has been through what I’ve been through and a divine presence who can help pull me through the worst of it. Jesus on a cross showed an unresolved tension that bled — but Jesus out of a tomb showed there really is a bowtie to this whole thing, a far-off nearly imperceptible light at the end of this tunnel.

Maybe we will find out the “reasons” one day for why everything happened. Maybe they will satisfy us, or not. But by then, the answers probably won’t matter anymore. Because we’ll be face to face with the God who was with us all along, the only one who never left us in our mess and who truly understood us as we are, venting and angry and hurting and all, and we’ll find out He really did love us despite us, and He suffered infinitely more than we could ever bear to face on our own.

I hold onto this hope. It feels foolish some days: but on those days, it’s all I have and all I need.

— J.S.

100% agree.

(via dragonshiryu123)

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"Stop saying sorry. Say thank you instead. When you say, “sorry for being a jerk” the other person is forced to either call you a jerk or say it wasnt a big deal. Instead, say “thank you for being so patient with me” so the other person has a reason to say they love you."

— I saw this gem on Reddit tonight.  It was posted under a topic of “What ‘little’ things you can do to improve your relationship with your significant other.”  I’m definitely taking this piece of advice with me into my next relationship. (via blakebaggott)

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anotherhelpingpplease:

I really want to go to a wedding. I think I’ve been to more funerals than I have weddings and I can’t help but think that it’s just a sad characteristic of my life - that there seems to be much more sadness and death in my life than there is joy. 

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I’ve seen a lot of relationships fall apart recently. Marriage vows that were said that are mocked. Promises made that were broken. It’s made me pretty pessimistic about the odds, pretty cynical about things breaking. Marriage/Relationships is that tight harmony. The melody and the (musical part) harmony follow each other (and in a way it’s the harmony following the melody). The harmony can’t always just sing a third above or below the melody because sometimes the melody changes notes to something that can’t be harmonized by just a simple third. But it’s so easy for the tight harmony to falter. If any person falters and sings a wrong note, the (general) harmony is off. But seriously what are the odds? What if the soloist just wants to do their thing and sing something else randomly and what if the other soloist just decides to sing random intervals just because? What if someone decides that no, they don’t really want to love and cherish this person, maybe sometimes, through sickness maybe, but not through health? Seriously how does it make sense how much in perfect balance this has to be - that two people somehow have to keep pulling on opposite ends of a rope to keep themselves up, to keep the rope that keeps them together up? Like stop, stop these pop songs that sing about love like it’s candy and summer nights and simple and easy because it’s not and you’ll just get cynical and disillusioned when you and the person who was that one you sang about, the one you sang with, don’t sing together anymore.

Cynical Christina doesn’t believe relationships will make it. Cynical Christina thinks that there’s no way. Someone prove it to me because all the proof I’ve seen around me says otherwise. I want to. I really want to believe that relationships don’t just end up falling apart. And even though this is a hope, cynical Christina doesn’t want this hope to grow too big, because if it does than maybe there will just be more disappointment.

I know that it’s only possible through Christ. There is no way two people would be able to constantly hold this rope and keep themselves up. That this fragile structure will break and that grace is how it’s mended, that Christ is what keeps it together. Sometimes, it’s easier to remember that hope is in Christ. Sometimes certain things remind me to hope. Then sometimes it’s just plain hard and I’m in Doubt country with a capital D. I’m trying to hold on to times and things of hope and store them as they come, to look back and remember, to remind myself of. I think we ought to (like memorial stones, as Ebenezers). This song (acoustic version) is one of them. It pushes me onward to hope and to trying.

Even in darkness, may hope rise

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I see your monsters

I see your pain

Tell me your problems

I’ll chase them away

I’ll be your lighthouse

I’ll make it okay

When I see your monsters

I’ll stand there so brave

And chase them all away

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madelaku:

Penn’s 258th Commencement Ceremony - Commencement Speaker John Legend

“Fear keeps us from loving. Even though we’re made to love, we’re often afraid to love. We’re afraid of being hurt deeply…but you’re never going to really love something or someone unless you put those fears aside. Don’t hold back.”

“Some might think it’s all a bit too much. Here I am this R&B artist with this album called Love in The Future, who’s recently married and wrote the biggest love song of the year. And what did I choose to talk about? Love. It’s so corny, isn’t it? It’s much cooler to be detached and apathetic, right? We all like a little snark and cynicism and irony…but that cool detachment only gets you so far. Passion gets you a lot further.”

“When you leave here today, you’re going to look for a lot of things. Security, money, friendships, sex, all kinds of things, but the most important thing you’ll find is love. So love yourself. Love your work. Love the people around you. Dare to love those who are different from you. No matter where they’re from what they look like, and who they love.”

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dragonshiryu123:

It’s funny how Jason and I always talked about covering songs with Jason, but never followed through. Ironically, our first cover happens when we’ve both long graduated. But better late than never!

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"The greatest gift you can give someone is the space to be his or herself, without the threat of you leaving."

— such a beautiful reflection of the love of God. (via yesdarlingido)

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"Legalistic remorse says, ‘I broke God’s rules,’ while real repentance says, ‘I broke God’s heart’."

— Timothy Keller  (via littlethingsaboutgod)

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weitogocindy:

“When the brilliant ethicist John Kavanaugh went to work for three months at “the house of the dying” in Calcutta, he was seeking a clear answer as to how best to spend the rest of his life.
On the first morning there he met Mother Teresa.  She asked, “And what can I do for you?” Kavanaugh asked her to pray for him. “What do you want me to pray for?” she asked.  He voiced the request that he had borne thousands of miles from the United States: “Pray that I have clarity.” She said firmly, “No, I will not do that.” When he asked her why, she said, “Clarity is the last thing you are clinging to and must let go of.”
When Kavanaugh commented that she always seemed to have the clarity he longed for, she laughed and said, "I have never had clarity; what I have always had is trust. So I will pray that you trust God.”

We often presume that trust will dispel the confusion, illuminate the darkness, vanquish the uncertainty, and redeem the times… our trust does not bring final clarity on this earth.  It does not still the chaos of dull the pain or provide a crutch.  Whell all else is unclear, the heart of trust says, as Jesus did on the cross, ‘Into your hands I commit my spirit’ (Luke 23:46).”

- An excerpt from “Ruthless Trust” by Brennan Manning

Timely words as I reflect on the fact that my life after the third week of July remains a gray blur of uncertainty. If I thought waiting until May 12th last year to know my rotation was hard, this year God has made it even harder.
I realize that one of the reasons why God has withheld clarity from me is because I haven’t adequately talked the next steps out with Him. I have not asked Him what His heart is for my next rotation. How can I be trusted to make a decision on something so crucial if I have not yet bothered to seek His counsel?
He knows my inclination is always to plan things out on my own, to run ahead and map everything out based my own wisdom. This is precisely why He has forced me into yet another period of waiting - so that I can wait on His revelation of His will, not on His enabling of mine.

Lord, may You withhold from me clarity until You have cultivated in me trust, and may my soul rest in You, especially in the midst of uncertainty.

Maybe what I really need is trust….

weitogocindy:

“When the brilliant ethicist John Kavanaugh went to work for three months at “the house of the dying” in Calcutta, he was seeking a clear answer as to how best to spend the rest of his life.

On the first morning there he met Mother Teresa.  She asked, “And what can I do for you?” Kavanaugh asked her to pray for him. “What do you want me to pray for?” she asked.  He voiced the request that he had borne thousands of miles from the United States: “Pray that I have clarity.” She said firmly, “No, I will not do that.” When he asked her why, she said, “Clarity is the last thing you are clinging to and must let go of.” When Kavanaugh commented that she always seemed to have the clarity he longed for, she laughed and said, "I have never had clarity; what I have always had is trust. So I will pray that you trust God.”

We often presume that trust will dispel the confusion, illuminate the darkness, vanquish the uncertainty, and redeem the times… our trust does not bring final clarity on this earth.  It does not still the chaos of dull the pain or provide a crutch.  Whell all else is unclear, the heart of trust says, as Jesus did on the cross, ‘Into your hands I commit my spirit’ (Luke 23:46).”

- An excerpt from “Ruthless Trust” by Brennan Manning

Timely words as I reflect on the fact that my life after the third week of July remains a gray blur of uncertainty. If I thought waiting until May 12th last year to know my rotation was hard, this year God has made it even harder.

I realize that one of the reasons why God has withheld clarity from me is because I haven’t adequately talked the next steps out with Him. I have not asked Him what His heart is for my next rotation. How can I be trusted to make a decision on something so crucial if I have not yet bothered to seek His counsel? He knows my inclination is always to plan things out on my own, to run ahead and map everything out based my own wisdom. This is precisely why He has forced me into yet another period of waiting - so that I can wait on His revelation of His will, not on His enabling of mine.

Lord, may You withhold from me clarity until You have cultivated in me trust, and may my soul rest in You, especially in the midst of uncertainty.

Maybe what I really need is trust….

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